One month from today, I should be somewhere over some ocean (my geography isn’t all that it could be), winging my way towards New Zealand. Yes! In case you missed the “big reveal” slipped in at the end of my recent post Courageous Middle Age, I am in the midst of planning a solo camper-van trip across the two islands known as “Land of the Long White Cloud,” or Aotearoa, in the indigenous Maori language.

Otago Peninsula (photo in public domain)
It’s All About Me!
Most people’s first response when they hear this is, “By yourself??” Why yes, by myself. It’s usually my favorite way to travel. Go where I want and do what I want when I want, be alone when I want, make friends if I want. See a theme here? It’s all about ME!
So yeah, solo. I wouldn’t go to Afghanistan or Yemen on my own, but this is New Zealand. They speak English, and it’s one of the safest places in the world. These people call themselves “Kiwis,” for heaven’s sake, how threatening can they be? I recently asked a Kiwi friend if there are dangerous animals I need to know about, like crocodiles or tree pythons or eight-inch spiders. He thought a minute and said, “Well, we have opossums.”
This week I figure I’d better move beyond dreaming to serious planning. I am surrounded by travel books, maps, and random notes from conversations with Kiwis. My Chrome tabs are open to articles like The Best Secret Beaches in New Zealand; November in New Zealand: What to Pack and What to See; and A Guide to the Wellington/Picton Ferry. Even my leisure reading is all New Zealand, all the time: Janet Frame, Katherine Mansfield, Owen Marshall.
What Could Happen?
Until recently, I’ve been feeling confident and excited about my trip, except the part about driving on the left-hand side of the road. But as I wrote last week, anxiety has been worming its way into my brain. My misadventure with my financial planner has shaken my confidence, and things I thought were certain are not, like American Democracy.
I need to give myself a good talking to: I will not be governed by fear. I am a capable, experienced traveler, and what could happen? I mean, well, yes, I was robbed and lost everything including my passport in Costa Rica. And I sprained my ankle and could barely walk most of the time I was in Uganda. (Ice is hard to come by there.) I got lost hiking in a fog bank in the wilderness of Yosemite and was pretty sure I was going to have to spend the night with only bears and mountain lions to keep me warm.
Flying Solo
OK, so maybe asking “What could happen?” isn’t helpful. Instead I will envision myself tootling along an ocean-side cliff, Maori music on the radio, the turquoise waters of the South Pacific stretching out to infinity on my left, the Southern Alps looming on my right.
One of the things I love most about traveling solo is the feeling that not a soul in the world knows where I am. I don’t know why that’s so compelling, but it gives me the same arms-outstretched feeling of unbearable freedom that I get from flying dreams. How I wish I still had flying dreams!!
Still, I guess it might be a good idea to inform someone about my whereabouts, once I plan my (very) flexible itinerary. I suppose if I drove off a cliff while gazing at Fiordland penguins or searching for blue whales, my camper-van company (aptly named Mad Campers) would eventually come looking for me.
OK, back to my maps. Thanks for reading today’s ruminations on my upcoming New Zealand adventure!

These aren’t Fiordland Penguins, but I love that New Zealand advertises a same-sex penguin couple (Thelma and Louise) on their tourism site.

Official Fiordland Crested Penguins (Photo: TravelWayOfLife)
Oct 10, 2019 @ 12:21:16
Melanie, have you blogged about those misadventures you mention in Costa Rica and Yosemite? Would love to read about those and what you gleaned from those experiences.
Oct 10, 2019 @ 12:38:05
Ha! No, those were pre-blogging days. Good idea, though. Now that you mention it, I must have also lost my journal in the Costa Rica “heist” – they took absolutely everything. All my film from the whole trip! But I can remember quite a bit of that adventure w/out my trusty journal.
Oct 09, 2019 @ 18:37:17
I look forward to reading about it – I haven’t been good at travelling alone but I am alone so… ! NZ is safe, and beautiful try to put anxiety aside (from an aussie)
Oct 09, 2019 @ 18:44:22
You have to at least try it! It’s so fun. I’m looking forward to NZ. I wish I had time to visit Australia, too, but when I realized how big it was, that seemed impossible. You can’t “stop by” Australia! Next time…
Oct 09, 2019 @ 19:37:44
Ha ha that’s true re Oz. And yes, I will try thank you.
Oct 09, 2019 @ 18:01:02
Hi Melanie Sounds like a great trip! When it’s winter here is it summer in New Zealand? Send photos if possible. Will you come back? Blessings Ralph
On Wed, Oct 9, 2019, 1:05 PM Writing with Spirit wrote:
> melanielynngriffin posted: “One month from today, I should be somewhere > over some ocean (my geography isn’t all that it could be), winging my way > towards New Zealand. Yes! In case you missed the “big reveal” slipped in at > the end of my recent post Courageous Middle Age, I am in the ” >
Oct 09, 2019 @ 18:15:24
Yes! It’ll be late spring in November – lots of flowers blooming! I will definitely be sending photos if I can get internet. I understand it’s spotty there. I will come back until Nov 2020, but then who knows? I will confess I’ve been researching Canadian and New Zealand citizenship rules.