WAS THIS TEACHING THING ALL A MISTAKE?
The closest thing I can liken it to is that feeling you get when you’ve been in a car accident and you step out all wobbly, gingerly testing every part of your body. You think you might be OK, but then again you might be missing a limb and not feeling it because you are in deep shock. Everything seems vivid and clear and surreal. You are glad to be alive.
You take deep gulping breaths and blink back tears, tears that have been lurking since you ate your PB&J sandwich at noon and waited for the kids to come back from recess.
Today you have been sad, mad, and despairing, but mostly just powerless.
Over first and second graders.
My first day as a substitute teacher might have been better without the second grade boys in the mix. In fact, it most definitely would have been. The paper airplanes wouldn’t be stuck on top of the ceiling light fixture and the four-foot-tall stack of plastic tubs would not have careened to the ground and scattered all the regular teacher’s folders and papers all over the floor.
I just thank God that the head of the school did not walk in at that moment. With two boys denying responsibility at higher and higher decibel levels and a third boy sobbing his heart out and the rest of the class staring at me with saucer-sized eyes, wondering if I was going to hit someone.
The girls mostly got into fights with each other over sharing toys and where things such as rocket ships and flags were supposed to be stored. There were raised voices, there were tears, there was one who sat in a corner and sulked for ten minutes. I asked her if she wanted to talk and she shook her head so I left her there. She seemed to bounce back.
I don’t know. Was this whole idea of substitute teaching a massive mistake?
My Facebook friends were so encouraging! “You’ll be amazing . . . you’ll be great . . . you have so much wisdom . . . you’ll change lives!”
Not so much.
There were moments. Helping a little girl learn to read the words “ice cream and cake” was cool, and reading Horton Hears a Who to an exhausted class at the end of the day with one small child cuddled next to me was five minutes of well-earned bliss.
A little red-headed girl who was only with my class for an hour of spelling and writing came running in to give me a hug after school.
And A, despite being in tears several times during the day, presented me with this:

A’s Gift
I don’t know whether that is a TV or a couple of aliens coming in through a window, but it matters not. I will keep this picture as a reminder of my first day as a teacher. Someday I hope to laugh about it all. Right now, my stomach hurts. I have to go back tomorrow.
Mar 17, 2017 @ 14:25:55
You will be fine. I remember when I was in second grade, we had this substitute teacher sometimes. We all loved her, and got super excited when we heard she was going to be coming, yet we did ridiculous stuff just because. We didn’t listen to her very well, but it was all ok because we were happy, and nobody got hurt, and she taught us different stuff from our regular teacher. Plus, kids aren’t that bad. All you have to do is repeatedly remind them of the rules, while treating them as equals.
Mar 17, 2017 @ 16:09:42
That makes me feel better. Today was way easier. I think it’s hard for a sub, too, because you don’t necessarily *know* all the rules and the kids aren’t honest about them.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 23:43:48
Remember that someone has to do it, so it may as well be you for now, and keep thinking about that paycheck. There’s something about an hourly or daily wage that feels like a real reward for every minute you endure.
Mar 17, 2017 @ 07:10:09
I’m thinking this is a skill, a new challenge, and I’m going to rise to it and learn how to be the teacher they need!
Mar 16, 2017 @ 21:48:31
I am sorry your stomach is upset. I have 14 grandchildren, and the most I know is to break out in a funny dance to center them during the most chaotic moment during the day and they will remember nothing else except how cool you are! No dancing skills necessary either! It helps you and them….many prayers for you.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 21:53:01
That’s great! I never thought of that.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 21:08:28
Kids always test the sub. I know I did. Was likely responsible for several adult career changes during my bratty tenure. I have a feeling they will accept and warm up to you more as the days go by. Hang in there Mel.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 21:13:05
Ha ha! You probably were responsible for career changes! I can actually see you being one of those kids today. Mischief written all over you.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 20:12:33
Did Charles Schultz through Charlie Brown teach you nothing?!!! There will always be a “little red-haired girl” in your life who will provide the hope and inspiration you need to get you through another day…I work for adults my own age and a little younger that exhibit these behaviors and NONE of them have red hair! And I NEVER get a hug at the end of the day!
Mar 16, 2017 @ 20:51:47
lol! You crack me up. That little girl melts my heart. I hope your adult colleagues don’t knock the furniture over like these kids do!
Mar 16, 2017 @ 18:04:43
OH, Melanie. hugging you in a virtual way.
thanks for the report on your first day at school as sub.
you poor thing. did the thought go through your head: i’m too old for this??? i suspect it would have been my mantra.
although i’d have added ‘shit’ at the end.
it will all be ok.
or you will make it ok.
xo
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Mar 16, 2017 @ 18:09:40
“I’m too old for this” didn’t go through my head until I got home. “I hate this” was my mantra during the day. All the stress hormones emanating from my brain have really upset my stomach! I think my body was on “danger alert” all day long. It will be OK.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 16:50:07
Deep breaths. Deep breaths. Deep breaths. And prayer. Lots of prayer.
Mar 16, 2017 @ 16:56:34
I did manage that for a few minutes after lunch! Tonight, I’ll sink into centering prayer!